Q: Why do couples break up so easily? When a husband and a wife disagree and argue, they divorce and they don’t love eachother anymore. But when siblings fight or if someone argue with their parent, they still love eachother and value them as family. Isn’t the spouse apart of the family? It was their choice to marry them. So is it different when a couple feuds?
A: There is a misconception that marriage means family. Marriage is an artificial construct of our society intended to achieve a specific goal, just like a contract. Being married does not guarantee that things will work out just like signing a contract doesn’t mean everyone will honor it.
Family, on the other hand, is a completely different concept. You do not have to be related by blood to someone for your mind (or heart) to consider that person family. After all, if you go back far enough we’re all related, so blood relation isn’t really *that* significant. What *is* significant is family; those people we love no matter what. Best friends, siblings, parents, and even spouses.
The question is whether your significant other is part of your marriage or part of your family. But be honest with yourself about that because that’s the crux of the whole issue. Are you just honoring the contract of marriage (which is a perfectly decent and acceptable thing to do) or do you actually consider this person to be an integral part of your family?